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The Danger of Having “No Limits”, Part 1

There are some things I dread hearing as a Mistress.

One of the biggest ones is a submissive eagerly telling me “I have no limits.” This is literally one of the most dangerous things anyone who’s into BDSM can say, and why I strongly discourage anyone from saying it. I’m not sure where the perception of saying “I have no limits” as though it’s a good thing, a badge of honor, or a mark in your favor for consideration in serving a Dominant comes from, but please, please, for the love of all that’s safe, sane, and consensual: STOP.

EVERYONE has limits.

Some aren’t into pain, some aren’t into humiliation, orientation play, bondage, CBT, or extreme activities–but the point is: EVERYONE has something they’re not into, and everyone has something they will never enjoy. You wouldn’t jump off a cliff, starve yourself for a week, or commit a violent crime just because someone told you to–or if you would, you seriously need to re-examine your self-worth, respect, and esteem.

A sissy who goes into raptures at the thought of being my cosseted little fuck doll with all the pinafores, stuffies, and cum out parties her holes can handle might bolt fast enough for her Mary Janes to kick her little pantied ass on the way out if I suggested zapping her with a cattle prod, scouring her clitty with steel wool, dousing it in salt and rubbing alcohol, then stomping on it with my stainless steel spike heeled stilettos. An extreme CBT addict might nearly cum at the though of that much agony, but if I told him there wouldn’t be any pain today–just ribbons and petticoats & tea parties while I sang him a lullaby and called him a good girl, he’d pack up his cattle prod and steel toed boots  and march off to find a sadist that knew what to do with masochistic man who wasn’t into feminization.

The point is: everyone has their kinks, and the things that leave them cold.

Everyone has things that make them excited and send a tidal wave of desire, anticipation, and adrenaline racing through their  blood–just like everyone has things they’d just as soon never experience due to distaste, fear, absolute disinterest, or any number of other reasons. NO ONE has the right to tell you your limits aren’t valid, or that having limits somehow makes you “less” of a submissive than one who either doesn’t know any better, or doesn’t value themselves highly enough to have them.  It’s your body, your choice, and only YOU get to decide what is done to it, who gets to use it, and how.


 

Not All Safewords are Verbal: A PSA by Mistress Lilly

Safewords are vitally important to a scene, but they’re not always said out loud.

For many submissives, bottoms, Tops, and Dom/mes, the stoplight system of “Green” = everything’s good, “Yellow” = proceed with caution & slow down, you’re approaching a limit, and “Red” = whatever you’re doing, STOP NOW! works great. I’m a fan of it myself. However, just like other safeword systems, it doesn’t work for everyone. One of my submissives in RL is very non-verbal in subspace. She loves Pet Play, Impact Play, and bondage–and when she hits subspace, Kitty can’t speak.

Words are damn near impossible for her when she’s really into a scene

—She’s very vocal, but words? Not so much.

For her, we use a system of purrs, kneading paws, and bells– Kitty loves bells. In scenes, she holds a flexible loop of jingle bells threaded through her fingers. Purrs mean she’s relaxing and blissing out, kneading her free paw means she wants to ramp things up, jingling bells means she needs things to slow down, and dropped bells means the scene STOPS (no dropped bells yet, but I know Kitty would if she wanted/needed to–she’s got absolutely no problems jingling them).

The important thing is to establish some method of communication that works for the individuals involved to keep the submissive safe.

Some subs are non-verbal, and some really, really hate using safewords because they hate ‘denying’ or ‘disappointing’ their Dom/me. Using non-verbal systems to communicate (at least until they realize they’re rewarded for communicating something that previous Dom/mes might have made them feel bad about) sometimes really helps when it comes to overcoming past traumas where safewords might have been ignored or punished.

It’s perfectly natural for a sub to want to please their Dom/me– I just wish more realized that using safewords DOES please us, because it shows they trust us enough to listen to them, take care of them, and respect them as human beings with limits instead of just a flogging bench or blow up doll with a pulse. It gives us a chance to prove that we’re worthy of the trust they give us each time they place themselves in our care, and it shows that the trust we place in them isn’t misplaced.


 

New Year, New Adventures

My trip to Australia was mind-blowing, unforgettable, epic, and I’ll be giving more details in the weeks to come—but right now, I want to share a little bit about what’s been keeping this particular Femdom preoccupied recently:

Naughty and Nice and a Whole Lotta Spice…Femdom Mistress Lilly

I’ve got incredible news for you! Some of the other LDW Ladies and I have been very, very busy doing something amazing. I’ve lost count of the number of subbies who’ve been eager to do a session with me, and want something with a bit more realism, a bit more interaction, than is possible over the phone. Well, now those dreams are about to come true!

LDW is launching a presence in popular online virtual world!

Our gorgeous avatars have to be seen to be believed– not only that, but we have our very own sexy & exclusive Femdom realm, and so many incredible toys to play with that even the most dedicated kinksters are sure to go fucking nuts! The Ladies and I have our very own private homes & playgrounds to tease and torment our callers during sessions, and we can’t wait to show them off. For anyone who’s ever wanted to session with us in Real Life, this particular venue’s stunning avatars, BDSM toys, animations, and scenery comes incredibly close to duplicating the appearance of the real thing— without all those pesky logistics details to sort out.

The Launch is coming soon—

So all hands on dick, and get ready to experience the newest incredible offering from the Ladies of LDW: Sessions with some of your favorite Femdoms online! Personally, I can’t wait to break in my outdoor dungeon space, shibari table, wax play setup, and sooooo many other diabolically fun toys! Even better, this particular amazing experience is offered at the same rate as our regular services, so why wait? When you’re ready to take the next step in exploring your Femdom desires, let us help you take them to the next level!

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Mistress Lilly Loves CBT

There are few things I adore more than a good ball-busting session.

The whimpers and groans of pain, the convulsive racking of your body as you choke back bile from a particularly well-placed blow, the stifled, gagging sobs as you struggle not to collapse in a shuddering heap while your groin is in agony, and the pain is so intense it’s hard to breathe.

That razor’s edge between agony and ecstasy is my favorite place to play–

And I’ve found nothing is quite as effective, or quite as quick, to reduce men to gibbering, quivering wrecks whimpering for mercy that’ll never come.

A good ball busting session works wonders for my sweet little sadist’s heart; and when I get bored crushing the family jewels to paste, I can always go to work on that cringing cock of yours. I’ve always found it incredibly amusing how easy to it to unman someone–one well-placed blow will send a guy crashing to his knees with no more effort than it takes to swing a tennis racket.

Don’t contact me for CBT thinking it’s going to be a little slap & tickle, then I’ll send you on your way.

I’m playful sadist, but a sadist in the truest sense of the word. I don’t believe in giving someone asking for CBT an easy bit of impact play–you’re going to feel what I do to you for hours, days, after I’m done. When I find a masochist to play with, I like to take my time, put you through your paces, wring out every last drop of agony until you’re within an inch of your sanity… and then do it all again. You’ve been warned 😉

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Ms. Lilly’s Adrenaline Pumping Australian Adventures

Goddess Gone Walkabout Oct 28th-Nov 16th

Hi Subbies–I’m still Down Under, but I wanted to let you know about some of the other fabulous things James and I will be doing while we’re here. In my last post, I mentioned how we’ve scuba dived at several locations in the Great Barrier reef over the course of 10 days–including free diving with sharks. This post—I’m focusing on the adventures we’ll have by exploring Australia by land, not sea.

White Water River Rafting

James and I will be getting drenched in water and adrenaline in equal measure during a full day of white water rafting in class 2 to class 4 rapids. It’ll be a fantastic day that’s sure to get us soaked, and give us plenty of stories to tell. Just a heads up: class 4 rapids are no joke–and I wouldn’t recommend them to anyone who’s inexperienced. There is a risk of serious injury, drowning, and death. The danger is real, but so is the thrill of living life on the edge. So while James and I are looking forward to an amazing, exciting, and fun day–we know it’s also going to be exhausting and hazardous, and we’ll be looking out for each other and the other people in the raft.

A Rainforest that Pre-Dates T-Rex

The Daintree Rainforest: It’s the oldest continually surviving rainforest in the World, and World Heritage Listed. Daintree contains species that date back over 135 MILLION years, and the same species DO show up in the fossil record. It’s home to species found nowhere else on earth, as well as 25% of all species in Australia. We’ll be taking a river cruise through Daintree, enjoy a rainforest walk, a cable ferry, and tour some of the most scenic vistas in all of Australia.

Waterfalls Above the Clouds

The Atherton Tableands: A glorious scenic area filled with waterfalls and streams, several thousand feet above sea level. We’ll be spending a day touring, hiking, and swimming here following our diving trips AFTER we lounge at sea level for a day—decompression sickness isn’t something I care to experience in my lifetime.

I’ll be back soon strokers!

In the meantime, don’t forget to keep the Ladies company, and check out my tumblr blog–I’ve queued up lots of gorgeous pics & naughty free audios for you to enjoy while I’m away. 🙂

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Mistress Lilly’s Great Barrier Reef Scuba Diving Pilgrimage

Great Barrier Reef: Going Walkabout on the Water

Hi subbies! Don’t worry that you won’t see me on for calls for a while–I’m on my way to the other side of the world for the vacation of a lifetime with my fiance James! We’ll be gone for just over two weeks, so . . . → Read More: Mistress Lilly’s Great Barrier Reef Scuba Diving Pilgrimage


 

One Week Until Ms. Lilly’s Australian Vacation!

Ms. Lilly’s about to be on her way to Australia

Your resident cruising Mistress is at it again! This time, I’m heading Australia to explore some of the most majestic and amazing things on the planet. James and I will be flying out Oct. 28th for Sydney, and spend just over two . . . → Read More: One Week Until Ms. Lilly’s Australian Vacation!


 

Mistress Lilly’s Safari & Cruise

Yesterday, I went to Animal Kingdom. Today, I’m going on a cruise

I’m packing a lot of adventure into this October, and yesterday I definitely took a walk on the wild side. Disney’s Animal Kingdom just might be my favorite park! I’m posting this right before heading out on my Mistress Cruise . . . → Read More: Mistress Lilly’s Safari & Cruise


 

Femdom Foodie: Hollywood Brown Derby at Walt Disney World

I decided to fly in early for the cruise, and visit Walt Disney World

Hollywood Brown Derby Bread Basket & Butter

I had a fabulous time at the theme parks–but this post is about the food at the Hollywood Brown Derby in Disney Studios. I’d heard wonderful things about their Cobb . . . → Read More: Femdom Foodie: Hollywood Brown Derby at Walt Disney World


 

Mistress Lilly’s Cruise: Vixen Vacation

I’ll be Sailing through Paradise Oct. 20th-24th

Your charming, cruising Mistress is hitting the High Seas again—but this time, my traveling companions won’t be my fiance or any of my RL slaves. Instead, I’ll be cruising through the tropics with some of the other LDW Ladies. It’s going to be my very . . . → Read More: Mistress Lilly’s Cruise: Vixen Vacation