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…And now for Something Completely Different

I apologize to my blog fans for not posting recently.

The truth is, recent events in the US have left me… speechless. The very foundations of what America stands for have been rocked to their foundations, and it’s looking increasingly like we are entering a phase in American politics where it’s We The . . . → Read More: …And now for Something Completely Different

Mistress Lilly Has NEW Pictures

In the Mood for Mistress Eye Candy

Your wish is about to be granted. It’s been an open secret that I don’t like having my picture taken. Call it privacy or paranoia, but as a Lifestyle and ProDomme Mistress at the tail end of the Bible Belt, keeping a low profile has . . . → Read More: Mistress Lilly Has NEW Pictures

Rainy Day Whack-a-Pole

CBT for When Summer Sun is in Short Supply

Summer is that glorious time of the year that is made for beaches, barbecues, fun in the sun, sand and surf–but what happens on those days when the sun’s not shining and the rain is pouring down?

If you’re anything like . . . → Read More: Rainy Day Whack-a-Pole

Sunshine CBT

CBT Arts and Crafts

Summer is the perfect time to experience a form of seasonal CBT that is absolutely diabolical. If you chose to attempt it, you will need a moderate to high level of pain tolerance, and a willingness to suffer for a week or more. You will also need lemon . . . → Read More: Sunshine CBT

Breaking Down Barriers: BDSM is more than Stereotypes, Part 2

Yet another comically bad stereotype: BDSM practitioners are all damaged people seeking out other damaged people.

People from happy, healthy upbringings and those with more difficult origins are all involved in BDSM. People from every walk of life & every background can be found in BDSM. Everyone is welcome. It’s one of the most . . . → Read More: Breaking Down Barriers: BDSM is more than Stereotypes, Part 2

Breaking Down Barriers: BDSM is more than Stereotypes, Part 1

Not All Doms are men, not all subs are female, and not all Dominatrices wear leather & latex.

If you’ve found my blog, you’ve already got a leg up on awareness of other dynamics in BDSM. True, most of the stuff you’ll find online features male doms & female subs, but BDSM is far . . . → Read More: Breaking Down Barriers: BDSM is more than Stereotypes, Part 1

Are Safewords Absolute? Even For a Sadist?

Listening to Safewords is NOT optional. It’s mandatory.

Some background— a submissive was looking for advice. I felt this issue is important enough to warrant signal boosting for anyone who might be in a similar situation, so I’m sharing my response here.  They are having an issue with a Dom who has recently started . . . → Read More: Are Safewords Absolute? Even For a Sadist?

The Danger of Having “No Limits” Part 2

“No limits” is a dangerous phrase for anyone to use.

(Catch up on Part 1 here) If you come across a Dominant who says they have no limits; or worse, they’re looking for a sub with no limits– RUN the other way. This is frequently language that predatory abusers use when prowling . . . → Read More: The Danger of Having “No Limits” Part 2

The Danger of Having “No Limits”, Part 1

There are some things I dread hearing as a Mistress.

One of the biggest ones is a submissive eagerly telling me “I have no limits.” This is literally one of the most dangerous things anyone who’s into BDSM can say, and why I strongly discourage anyone from saying it. I’m not sure . . . → Read More: The Danger of Having “No Limits”, Part 1

Not All Safewords are Verbal: A PSA by Mistress Lilly

Safewords are vitally important to a scene, but they’re not always said out loud.

For many submissives, bottoms, Tops, and Dom/mes, the stoplight system of “Green” = everything’s good, “Yellow” = proceed with caution & slow down, you’re approaching a limit, and “Red” = whatever you’re doing, STOP NOW! works great. I’m . . . → Read More: Not All Safewords are Verbal: A PSA by Mistress Lilly