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Are Safewords Absolute? Even For a Sadist?

Listening to Safewords is NOT optional. It’s mandatory.

Some background— a submissive was looking for advice. I felt this issue is important enough to warrant signal boosting for anyone who might be in a similar situation, so I’m sharing my response here.  They are having an issue with a Dom who has recently started . . . → Read More: Are Safewords Absolute? Even For a Sadist?

The Danger of Having “No Limits” Part 2

“No limits” is a dangerous phrase for anyone to use.

(Catch up on Part 1 here) If you come across a Dominant who says they have no limits; or worse, they’re looking for a sub with no limits– RUN the other way. This is frequently language that predatory abusers use when prowling . . . → Read More: The Danger of Having “No Limits” Part 2

The Danger of Having “No Limits”, Part 1

There are some things I dread hearing as a Mistress.

One of the biggest ones is a submissive eagerly telling me “I have no limits.” This is literally one of the most dangerous things anyone who’s into BDSM can say, and why I strongly discourage anyone from saying it. I’m not sure . . . → Read More: The Danger of Having “No Limits”, Part 1

Not All Safewords are Verbal: A PSA by Mistress Lilly

Safewords are vitally important to a scene, but they’re not always said out loud.

For many submissives, bottoms, Tops, and Dom/mes, the stoplight system of “Green” = everything’s good, “Yellow” = proceed with caution & slow down, you’re approaching a limit, and “Red” = whatever you’re doing, STOP NOW! works great. I’m . . . → Read More: Not All Safewords are Verbal: A PSA by Mistress Lilly

New Year, New Adventures

My trip to Australia was mind-blowing, unforgettable, epic, and I’ll be giving more details in the weeks to come—but right now, I want to share a little bit about what’s been keeping this particular Femdom preoccupied recently:

Naughty and Nice and a Whole Lotta Spice…

I’ve got incredible news for . . . → Read More: New Year, New Adventures

Mistress Lilly Loves CBT

There are few things I adore more than a good ball-busting session.

The whimpers and groans of pain, the convulsive racking of your body as you choke back bile from a particularly well-placed blow, the stifled, gagging sobs as you struggle not to collapse in a shuddering heap while your groin is . . . → Read More: Mistress Lilly Loves CBT

Ms. Lilly’s Adrenaline Pumping Australian Adventures

Goddess Gone Walkabout Oct 28th-Nov 16th

Hi Subbies–I’m still Down Under, but I wanted to let you know about some of the other fabulous things James and I will be doing while we’re here. In my last post, I mentioned how we’ve scuba dived at several locations in the Great Barrier reef . . . → Read More: Ms. Lilly’s Adrenaline Pumping Australian Adventures

Mistress Lilly’s Great Barrier Reef Scuba Diving Pilgrimage

Great Barrier Reef: Going Walkabout on the Water

Hi subbies! Don’t worry that you won’t see me on for calls for a while–I’m on my way to the other side of the world for the vacation of a lifetime with my fiance James! We’ll be gone for just over two weeks, so . . . → Read More: Mistress Lilly’s Great Barrier Reef Scuba Diving Pilgrimage

One Week Until Ms. Lilly’s Australian Vacation!

Ms. Lilly’s about to be on her way to Australia

Your resident cruising Mistress is at it again! This time, I’m heading Australia to explore some of the most majestic and amazing things on the planet. James and I will be flying out Oct. 28th for Sydney, and spend just over two . . . → Read More: One Week Until Ms. Lilly’s Australian Vacation!

Mistress Lilly’s Safari & Cruise

Yesterday, I went to Animal Kingdom. Today, I’m going on a cruise

I’m packing a lot of adventure into this October, and yesterday I definitely took a walk on the wild side. Disney’s Animal Kingdom just might be my favorite park! I’m posting this right before heading out on my Mistress Cruise . . . → Read More: Mistress Lilly’s Safari & Cruise