When Fantasy runs wild, there are consequences.
Exploring your fetishes and desires can certainly enhance your life; but what happens when that need to indulge begins causing unwanted complications? In Part 1 and Part 2 of this series, we’ve been exploring some of the unexpected benefits of sessions with a Mistress, and finding a way to keep your fetish in check is definitely an incredible asset.
How can this FemDom help?
Erotic Trance. One of my regulars is a stocking, heel, and foot fetishist. So much so that he was in danger of getting in trouble. All it would take was the flash of a thigh high beneath a skirt, the turn of a slim ankle inside a shimmering stiletto heel…and he’d get hard. He’d ache to worship, to touch, to kneel—even if it was on a bus, the mall, the sidewalk. His fetish was taking over his life-and I helped him change that. We roleplayed therapy sessions, I put him in an erotic trance, and over time helped switch that floodlight of desire to a single, narrow focus: me. He has a safe outlet for his fetish, one that carries no risk of citations, fines, or other troubles, and can go about his daily life in peace.
Accept yourself for who you are; plan accordingly.
Mistresses understand that your fetish is only part of your life, it doesn’t have to define your life-and we can assist you in finding balance between the two. We can help you explore who you are in a safe, discreet way with no risk of fallout.
you actually “pinpointed” part of my experience. my first experience of this was just that – lots of “overhearing” girls/women’s conversations about size. college dormitories big time. I would want to “melt into the floor” -even though the discussion was not (usually) directly about me – I always had this feeling that I had a “secret” and the discussion could turn toward me. It was both scary and electric at the same time. Both before then and after there were more “personal moments’ when a lady (real not fantasy) indicated her feelings. Initially this was I think (not sure) not totally erotic but later and now as you say it became almost “needed”. Not sure how that works!
Lilly,
this is an interesting post to me – the whole ‘blend’ of fantasy and reality. I am a “not so endowed guy” – sometimes my fantasies around this issue blend with the reality of it. Part of me fantasizes about having a woman “confidant” to discuss the issue with and part of me fears it. It both scares me and excites me at the same time. it is also interesting to me because the issue of “endowment” or smallness though it is one I seek to discuss or learn about from women now – it was not always. Initially women or girlfriends…………or just women I heard “talk” brought the issue to me. then it was more “fear” than excitement. now it is more of an even blend. in this way it seems like the “reality” sometimes overlaps with fantasy. not sure. does that make sense?
Yes, it does 🙂 You just described your transition from simple nervousness, fear, or embarrassment at being modestly equipped; to a man who’s beginning to understand the appeal of SPH and erotic humiliation—especially if it’s done a caring, sensual manner with a confidante, or if you’re able to be a voyeur—listening as women discuss how size DOES matter after all.
It’s a natural progression, and one that seamlessly blends fantasy and reality….with the reality being that eventually you will seek out opportunities for just such a confidante, or to overhear a frank “just between us girls” conversation. The good new is the Ladies of LDW can assist you with both.
I think I understand what you are saying. When this issue first came to me it was definitely “delivered” from a girl. I did not “seek it”. In fact it worked that way a few times
in my early life. Until one girlfriend truly “ramped it up”. Even then though I do not remember it being exactly “erotic” or sought after. It was definitely more for her entertainment. She was one of those girls who truly delighted in seeing me blush. It was only later that it felt like more of a “need” (strong one)that I wanted and needed to hear from girls on this matter. Like I really wanted to hear the truth of what they thought about the subject honestly. It feels like a flip flop of some type. what was once dreaded is now sought and needed (don’t get me wrong it is STILL dreaded – it is just that it is BOTH dreaded and needed????