Some of you know that my fiance James isn’t exactly my submissive.
In fact, we’re both Dominant personalities (mine just happens to be stronger). We have what is occasionally referred to as a female led relationship or FLR. What that means is that while we may not have a formal D/s power exchange, and may not engage in certain aspects of BDSM, I am the one wearing the metaphorical pants in this relationship– though really I’m more comfortable in corsets and thigh highs. 😉
A Female led relationship is one where the lady takes the lead.
It may not have the same kinks or fetishes found in BDSM–in fact, plenty of FLR’s begin (and remain) completely vanilla. For those sweet subbies who are in relationships and wanting a partner to be a bit more dominant, you might try to see if an FLR is right for her. It begins simply enough: you defer to her preference and judgment. This doesn’t mean that you’re a doormat, or that you’re ‘whipped’. It means that you respect your partner enough to make her pleasure and contentment your priority. When it comes to restaurants, movies, or what sexual position–her word goes. From there, you can springboard to having her decide more and more things in your relationship to see if you’re both enjoying yourselves–and maybe even incorporate some kink!
In an FLR, just as in BDSM, you always have free will.
You never HAVE to do something you absolutely hate, and by the same token, your partner does not HAVE to transition towards an FLR simply because you want her to. It’s all about mutual respect and enjoyment. I enjoy calling the shots, tying my fiance up in bondage, and using my strap-on with him on occasion—and he loves showing me off, treating me as a Goddess, and spoiling me rotten. I will never indulge in pain play or erotic humiliation with him because he doesn’t enjoy it, but I’m free to unleash the sensual side of my Dominant nature whenever I want, and he goes nuts for it. I go nuts for the fact I have an amazing alpha male & stud secure enough in himself to kneel, to please, and to ravish me senseless. 😉
Empress Lilly:
Please keep leading all of us. We submissives need and require to be lead by a perfect goddess such as yourself. If I can be permitted to speak for the sissy clan around the world, we are and forever will be lost without your guidance. What is your message for “Female Lead Relationships 101” second edition. I love my Owner / Goddess and await your instruction.
XOXOXO
“Sissy Jizzelle”
Empress:
By this posting I would like to declare to everyone that “I love being owned by you” and am excited beyond belief to be your property. I volunteer to perform for you and whoever else you wish at any time. Please continue to train me in the ways of feminine submissiveness.
Your sissy fairy cock slut loves you and bows to your supremecy.
XOXOXO
Jizzelle
P.S. I am on the way out the door dressed in you know what. Please wish me happy hunting.
Empress:
Yours and James’s relationship serves as an example of the way I wish mine to be. I as a submissive sissy I need a strong and dominate women to lead me throughout the rest of my life. Thank you for owning me and instructing me in the ways that will help mold me into what I was always meant to be. Love you tons.
Your sissy,
Jizzelle
Ms Lilly- I think it’s amazing that there really are as many flavors of domination as there are people.The relationship I am exploring is definitely female led! As you mention, no matter the degree of domination, it’s always always consensual, with each partner able to exert free will. Thank you for sharing your situation!