Today, I’m pleased to showcase a guest post from the gorgeous Ms. Violet–a wonderful Mistress who I’ve shared pets with in the past. I’m thrilled she’s stopped by today to lend her thoughts on why your submission is a treasured gift, and the role trust, safety & care plays in BDSM.
The Softer Side of BDSM
Do not mistake this to mean that I will forego pain play, or name calling, if you enjoy that. I am happy to employ a strict nature to get you where you need to be. But that does not mean I do not care about you. Far from it.
I have always enjoyed getting to know my submissives, slaves, pets, and sissies. It is important to form a relationship as the foundation to our BDSM scenes. Let me explain this further.
Dominating You
I understand that you are submissive, or you require some submissive time. You have come to the right place. Just as in an in person scene, I take care that your boundaries are respected, yet pushed just enough; that you are physically safe; and that your mental state is healthy.
During a scene that includes impact play, I check your body regularly, on web cam if possible, for bruising, and welts. I understand that you may not be able to have marks that last for days. It is part of my responsibility as the Mistress to leave you in an acceptable state to protect your primary relationship.
Caring BDSM Explained
You are bent over my lap, bare assed, and I am spanking your cheeks firmly until they are glowing red, with heat radiating off of them nicely. Yes, I am very excited spanking you. I am totally into it. But I ensure that I remember to check the flesh of your ass. If the bruises are getting too dark, I move on to a different activity.
I will tie you up, placing you in a deliciously helpless position. I will make sure my bondage leaves your nipples, cock, and balls are well exposed, giving me total access to them. Occasionally, I will ask you how your wrists and ankles are feeling. I will look at them, if possible, to see if they are getting too dark, indicating a need to be released for a while. You will be in subspace, making you a poor judge of your condition. That is why I prefer seeing your flesh on cam when pain play is involved.
Lube is Required
Caring BDSM requires a good supply of lubrication. If you enjoy anal play, I will be penetrating your ass with dildos, butt plugs, strap-ons, and various other interesting objects. I will make sure they are thoroughly lubricated, for your safety. I am not interested in harming your ass, just violating it.
This is true for extended stroking, as well. Yes, I will have you do extreme edging for me. You will be reminded to re-apply lube, because I am fully in my mind, and you are out in subspace. When the scene ends, I want your cock to be exhausted, satisfied, and drained. I do not want to see it with friction burns. How is that sexy?
Safety Allows Trust
Trust and respect are critical. When you can come to me and know that I will ensure your safety at all times, you can relax and allow yourself to trust me. Trust is something that is earned over time. You will learn that I take your safety seriously. Over time, you may even feel safe enough to suggest new activities that you previously thought should only be done in person.
Come to me and bring your BDSM fantasies with you. Ms Lilly and I would greatly enjoy double teaming you in session. Two young, devilishly devious Mistress’ training you…disciplining you…playing with you. All with the knowledge that you will be within the bounds of caring BDSM. A fabulous place to be.
Thank you to Ms Lilly for inviting me to guest blog. It has been a pleasure. Remember to ask for both of us next time you are in the mood to push your boundaries and want to do so safely.
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