Yet another comically bad stereotype: BDSM practitioners are all damaged people seeking out other damaged people. People from happy, healthy upbringings and those with more difficult origins are all involved in BDSM. People from every walk of life & every...

Not All Doms are men, not all subs are female, and not all Dominatrices wear leather & latex. If you've found my blog, you've already got a leg up on awareness of other dynamics in BDSM. True, most of the stuff you’ll find online features male doms & female...

Listening to Safewords is NOT optional. It's mandatory. Some background--- a submissive was looking for advice. I felt this issue is important enough to warrant signal boosting for anyone who might be in a similar situation, so I'm sharing my response here.  They are...

"No limits" is a dangerous phrase for anyone to use. (Catch up on Part 1 here) If you come across a Dominant who says they have no limits; or worse, they're looking for a sub with no limits-- RUN the other way. This is frequently language that predatory abusers use...

There are some things I dread hearing as a Mistress. One of the biggest ones is a submissive eagerly telling me "I have no limits." This is literally one of the most dangerous things anyone who's into BDSM can say, and why I strongly discourage anyone from saying it....

Safewords are vitally important to a scene, but they're not always said out loud. For many submissives, bottoms, Tops, and Dom/mes, the stoplight system of "Green" = everything's good, "Yellow" = proceed with caution & slow down, you're approaching a limit, and...

My trip to Australia was mind-blowing, unforgettable, epic, and I'll be giving more details in the weeks to come---but right now, I want to share a little bit about what's been keeping this particular Femdom preoccupied recently: Naughty and Nice and a Whole Lotta...

There are few things I adore more than a good ball-busting session. The whimpers and groans of pain, the convulsive racking of your body as you choke back bile from a particularly well-placed blow, the stifled, gagging sobs as you struggle not to collapse in a...

Goddess Gone Walkabout Oct 28th-Nov 16th Hi Subbies--I'm still Down Under, but I wanted to let you know about some of the other fabulous things James and I will be doing while we're here. In my last post, I mentioned how we've scuba dived at several locations in the...

Great Barrier Reef: Going Walkabout on the Water Hi subbies! Don't worry that you won't see me on for calls for a while--I'm on my way to the other side of the world for the vacation of a lifetime with my fiance James! We'll be gone for just over two weeks, so if you...